3. Hotel-your home away from home. We asked the hotel what they had available to children with special needs. They were able to provide her with a bed rail, a refrigerator for her medication, and a room on the ground floor. Bring things to remind your child of home, like a blanket, pillow and stuffed animals. Also make sure you scan the room for potential hazards.
6. Have Fun.
P.S. If you are traveling with other people be realistic about what they can expect from your family and your child. Most people are not trying to be rude or condescending, they just don't get it! They have no idea what it takes to care for a child with special needs. Be as specific as possible about what could and will happen to your child if he or she is overwhelmed, and how you will handle the situation. For example if your child has a melt down, what will you or your spouse do? What do you want them to do? When people are informed and communication is open it makes for a happier time for everyone involved.
Disclamer: This is my own opinion about what made our stay at Disney World enchanting. Each child is unique and will respond differently.